This year has felt like forever and it has felt like nothing. It has been a year of change. A year of challenges. A year of growth. I have experienced some incredible highs, but also some incredible lows. And, over the last 12 months, I’ve learned more than I could have imagined. I thought I’d share a few of those lessons with you.
You can always start all over again. No matter how bad things seem, no matter what has gone wrong, you can always pick yourself up and start all over. There is nothing wrong with starting over. And you always have the power to do it. Even when you think all is lost. It is always possible.
Everything will be okay. It doesn’t always seem like it. Actually, if I’m being really honest, it usually doesn’t seem like it. But, eventually, everything really will be okay.
Music is magical and healing. There is nothing like dancing around your room with your favorite song turned up. Or with a girl power song turned up. My current favorite? Kelsea Ballerini’s Miss Me More.
When the sky is falling, it’s just the universe adjusting for you. Adjusting so that you can grow. Adjusting so amazing, wonderful people can come into your life. Adjusting so that you have an incredible opportunity. It seems like everything is coming apart, but it’s just making room for something wonderful and giving you a chance to grow.
True friends will always be there, no matter how long you’ve been away from home. They’ll still be there when you get back, and they will always make time for you. Be grateful for them.
There will always be people who inspire you, support you and love you. Keep your eyes open, especially during the tough times. There will be fantastic people pop up who will give you advice, make you laugh and sometimes, become great friends.
Making friends is hard. But you don’t need a lot. It’s better to have a few good friends, than 100 fake ones.
I am far stronger than I ever imagined. So are you. This year I have overcome things that I thought would kill me. But they didn’t. Never doubt your ability to handle what the world throws at you.
Do not sacrifice what is important to you. Not for anyone. Ever.
If someone wants to leave, they will. Don’t try to stop them. If they no longer want to be a part of your life, you don’t want them there. And if they’re really meant to be there, then they’ll come back.
Take a risk. Or two or three. Or 100. Sure, it’s scary. It’s hard. But probably, (actually, definitely) totally worth it. So do it anyway. Cross the suspension bridge over a river in Nepal. Get on the plane to the new city by yourself. Text that person. Tell them that they matter.
Take pictures. Take so many pictures your camera and phone and computer are full and you have hundreds or even thousands of folders. Because those memories are precious. Photographs are a way to document your life, and one day, when you’re having a bad day or when you’re 80 you can look back and remember all of the incredible things that you have done.
Self care. Is. So. Important. If you don’t take care of yourself you’ll burn out, and you won’t be able to be yourself. Stay home. Go out. Paint your nails. Meditate every day. Whatever you’ve got to do, just do it.
Grow bigger than the last time you grew. Keep growing, keep learning, and keep becoming a better person.
“May your coming year be filled with magic and dreams and good madness. I hope you read some fine books and kiss someone who thinks you’re wonderful, and don’t forget to make some art — write or draw or build or sing or live as only you can. And I hope, somewhere in the next year, you surprise yourself.”
― Neil Gaiman